By Paul Kivel
Sexual harassment, baby abuse, incest, rape, homicide, war--it's most unlikely this present day to listen to a information file and never learn of violent acts perpetrated by way of males. Acknowledging that there are not any effortless solutions to the matter of male violence--particularly in a global that turns out to thrive on aggression and actual force--Men's paintings reaches instantly to its root explanations. In his ground-breaking paintings, writer Paul Kivel is helping males confront the political, social, and private forces that generate and gift misogyny, hatred, anger, and violent habit. Combining years of non-public learn and mirrored image together with his paintings with males within the Oakland Men's undertaking, Men's paintings offers an leading edge and plausible method of preventing male violence. Kivel indicates males tips on how to reclaim the ability and accountability had to unlearn the teachings of regulate and aggression. Paul Kivel is a nationally identified specialist on men's concerns. via his paintings on the Oakland Men's venture, he is helping males confront and alter violent behaviors and teaches choices to violence of their relationships. He additionally trains lecturers, therapists, probation officials, and corporation employees who paintings with males, exploring such themes as male/female relationships, possible choices to violence, relatives violence, and sexual attack. Kivel is living in Oakland, California.
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We will still have to investigate each individual situation and try to determine what happened and what we should do about it. But if we are less surprised we will notice the abuse more often; we will listen to the survivors more seriously; and we will collude less with the men who perpetrate attacks on those around them. We will begin to end the silence which keeps the violence unchallenged. My larger goal in writing this book was to aid in developing policies, intervention strategies, and community education and prevention programs which provide safety and equality for women, and different models of what it means to be a man.
Whoever teaches us, the messages are remarkably uniform. My son Ariel is receiving the same training I received. He learns from his friends Robert and William, from television, and from his teachers. I think a lot about what he may learn from me. Page 19 I learned much from my father. Even though he was not physically abusive, his training left its marks. "* A ten-year-old boy is in a chair at home watching television. His dad walks through the door holding a piece of paper. DAD: Turn off that set.
He understands all that. But when push comes to shove, he shoves back, and sometimes he shoves first. Among the children in our neighborhood, there is a broad range of family backgrounds. There are usually some children in Page 8 my son's class who are a couple of years older than he is. They're bigger, angry, and have a lot to prove to themselves and others. Robert is one such kid. He comes to school overflowing with violent talk and threatens children to make them do what he wantsa classic bully.